Thank you for your gift.

Just before Christmas, you left. You finished packing, took the couch and wide screen TV I bought you, and you left. Am I supposed to mourn?

After you were gone, your friend, the one you claim was going to commit suicide if you left, sent me a rather immature, nasty note filled with half-truths and outright lies about why you left. I laughed when I read the part about how you stopped this person from acting against me, because you left! Should I cry and wail because you left?

No, there are no tears to cry, nor recriminations to feel because you left me long ago.

You left me when you decided our home was your hotel room with the full maid service.

You left me when lied to me about going to college while I was working an extra job so you could.

You left me when you started drinking heavily and finding excuses for the damage and lack of maintenance for the three used cars I bought you so you could get to school.

You left me when you cheated and ended up with genital herpes.

You left me when the hundreds of dollars I spent to get you periodontal care so you wouldn’t lose you teeth, was wasted because you were too lazy to follow the dentist’s directions.

You left me when you decided you didn’t have to repay money I loaned you, even after you proclaimed on numerous occasions that you always pay your debts.

You left me when you decided your only responsibilities in our home was to sleep, shower, watch anime and other childish TV shows while making a mess in the kitchen which, of course, I always had to clean up.

You left me when you started coming home drunk, smelling of cigarettes and cheap cigars and, on occasion, your own puke, and wanting someone to cuddle you.

Worst of all, you left me when you refused to communicate without telling me lies.

There is more but it’s no longer of use to talk about them because you will probably never read this; you will simply say, “It was all his fault.”

So I say this, to you, and those like you, thank you for your gift of leaving. It means more and more to me every day to know I tried, and you failed.

What have we become?

Requirements to become a Senator in the United States Senate.*

The Constitution sets three qualifications for service in the U..S. Senate:

  1. Age (Minimum of thirty years old)

2. U.S. Citizenship (At least nine years)

3. Residency in the state a senator represents at the time of the election.

The details of these qualifications were hammered out by the Constitution’s framers during the Constitutional Convention in 1787.

Frankly, I think the framers should have done a lot more hammering on this. For instances, there is no requirement for the ability to read, write or even speak American English. Nothing said about having any form of criminal background or foreign allegiances which are in conflict with the American agenda(s). How about drug tests, tax records or traffic tickets for that matter.

There are no requirements other than the three mentioned, to become a powerful person in our government. No skills, knowledge, experience or other useful training or abilities needed I guess.

Terms or service:

Article I, section 3 of the Constitution requires the Senate to be divided into three classes for purposes of elections. Senators are elected to six-year terms, and every two years the members of one class–approximately one-third of the senators–face election or reelection.

Oath of Office:

The Constitution does not provide an oath of office for members of Congress, but specifies only that they “shall be bound by Oath of Affirmation to support this constitution.” The Oath of Affirmation that one-third of the Senate recites every two years is a product of the 1860s, drafted by Civil War-era members intent on ensnaring traitors. The oath-taking, however, dates back to the First Congress in 1789. The first oath served the Senate for nearly three-quarters of a century. The current oath, in use since 1884, is a milder version of the oath adopted in 1862.

Note: “Inspired by British precedents, delegates to the 1787 Constitutional Convention set membership requirements for both the House of Representatives and the Senate. These requirements included age, citizenship and residential qualifications. The delegates specifically left out property ownership and religious requirements. While British law of the time banned anyone born outside England, Ireland or Scotland from sitting in Parliament, the newness of the American colonies, and the fact that nearly everyone at the time came from somewhere else, necessitated the looser residential and citizenship limitations for the U.S. Congress.”

Impressive, right? Here we the criteria for someone to be in control of our country and our future! Makes me shudders, but does explain the presence of some of the current members of our Congress.

Is it any wonder, that the so many of the Democrat monarchists are attacking President Trump for his policies and decisions? My God people, his hair has more qualifications than many Senators and Representatives currently in office. He’s a poker player playing against a table of childish playground bullies, none of which offers any abilities or skills that even come even close to my Algebra skills, and I flunked it.

If we are to survive as an independent nation, we must address and amend our requirements for our potential employees in our Congress. We must outline the skills and abilities needed to bring American back into the realm of a fair and honest sovereign nation independent of foreign interference.

No personal offense to Ms. Ortiz, but the kid at the local Schnuck’s (yep, it’s a family owned market) has more knowledge, experience and savvy that

she would gain in a dozen terms in office. He has powerful tools at his disposal such as his logical thinking, honest dealings and ability to see beyond the BS factor. His H.S. GPA is 4.0 and he can recite the Constitution without making a mistake. Is he qualified to be a leader in our country? I say, more so than Ortiz, Schumer, and Pelosi combined.

We need to amend our Constitution and modernize the requirements we needed to be a member of our Congress. We need term limits, not just to bring in fresh new ideas and leadership, but to increase the level of logic and intellect in our employees aka Senators and Representatives.

We must also define and enact strict rules against fraud committed by potential and actual members of our Congress. Here I speak to those candidates who run for office with one party then switch allegiance to another after being elected. That is fraud, plain and simple.

All candidates must have a working knowledge of our Constitution, Bill of Rights and how our government and be most transparent and productive.

Last, but definitely not the least, is the need for improved paths to the removal of our Congressional employees if needed. There must be established and enforced rules of conduct that, if ignored, will bring down the immediate wrath of the voters via a special committee of voters appointed to hear and judge the accused(s). We must demand an end to the practices of our Congressional employees judging and disciplining themselves; giving themselves raises and perks, and using taxpayer funds to buy themselves out of self-made problems.

We, the American voters and taxpayers must understand that those we elect are our employees, not nobility of a self-made monarchistic agenda.

*Stay tuned for my opinion on the House of Representatives.

I don’t understand…

I consider myself to be well informed on current affairs in America, and I like to think I understand both sides of each argument but the wall issue has me confused.

There are no indigenous peoples in the western hemisphere, we are all immigrants that, as far as Anthropology can discern to date, originated in Africa. We all came here, we all settled here and we all took, or stole if you prefer, the land from the original occupants, the flora and fauna. Thus, in my mind, no human being has the right to claim indigenous status.

Given recent anthropological discoveries throughout the “Americas,” the question of who were the actual first peoples is in question. But does it make a difference now; will knowing who was here first correct the problems at our borders? No, of course not because since the time the first homo-sapien evolved in Africa, we have struggled to control our own lives and destinies by conquering and forcibly assimilating first the flora then the fauna and eventually other homo-sapiens.

The problem for me in this scenario is that who, and or what was the first homo-sapien – male or female and, here’s the kicker, who did he, or she, mate with to create more homo-sapiens? If you read the Bible, in Genesis, you learn that “God” created man from which he took a rib to create woman, then told them to go forth and multiply, with no sex manual by Dr. Ruth I might add. But they accomplished the task initially having two boys, Cain and Abel; if you read the book, you know Cain slew Abel for reasons unimportant to this story, and that he was cast out of the family.

Cain left town, met up with a woman, they had kids and…whoa? If “God” created the “First Man” and the “First Woman” where did Cain’s wife come from? OK, now I’m more confused than before, and I think that’s what’s going on with most Americans over this border issue – confusion and speculation sans actual facts.

Was Cain’s wife an illegal immigrant? Were her relatives legal? We don’t know, nor do we know about those trying to march into America uninvited and illegally. Who are these people pounding at our gates?

President Trump, on the recommendation of the Homeland Security Staff, the Border Patrol and private citizens living along our southern border has determined that an appropriately designed and constructed solid barrier is needed to stem the flow of drugs, human traffickers, criminals, gang members, terrorists, and illegal immigrants, among other undesirables from entering our country.

In his proposal to our Congress, those who claim to represent all of us taxpayers, the President has outlined how he would build the wall, add additional staffing to our Border Patrol, and upgrade security electronics along the border, and what it will cost (estimated at less than $ 50 billion).

With a current estimated taxpayer burden of $ 150 billion per year for illegals in America, the continuous illegal immigration costs could double, perhaps even triple that. Seems to me that what President Trump wants makes, if nothing else, financial common sense., however, a good substantial portion of those who claim to represent American taxpayers state the President is playing politics and they refuse to help.

Almost every day, at least once a day, I either hear or read comments from Democrats berating our President and claiming to have proof from “experts” on border control who state a wall would be ineffective. My only problem with this is, they never cite (name) those “experts” nor provide easy routes to verify their claims. It’s like, “I am a Democrat! You will take my word for everything and never challenge me!”

Sorry dude (dudette?) but not this old fart. You make a claim, you substantiate that claim with proof positive. Hell, I learned that the hard way.

What this all comes down to for me is this; the Democrats, who I prefer to refer to as the neo-Monarchs, have declared they will, once in power, spend millions more taxpayer money investigating and attacking President Trump while illegal immigrants, terrorists, drug dealers, human traffickers, and other criminals continue to ply their trades unchallenged in America.

Now I may be an old fart, but I’m not a crazy old fart. As I see it, the Democrat monarchists have but two goals; destroy President Trump and control taxpayer money. The tragic part of that is the Democrat voters who will also lose if the monarchists take over; who will they cry to then?

Pelosi has proclaimed the wall to be immoral, but can’t define why? Perhaps it has to do with the alleged drug smuggling operations of her two daughters who claimed immunity because they are her “aides?” It would be so immoral if they had to go to prison for 30+ years.

Whatever excuses the Democrat monarchy has for not funding the wall to protect Americans, they are wrong. It’s past time to listen to those who fight the battles on the front lines every day and stop playing politics with our lives.

Change – Curse of the Self

I’m an avid student of human behavior, not for any class but for myself; to know, understand and accept myself in the hope of being the best me possible. Oh sure, I have quirks and desires that may not fall into any real mainstream regimen, but then that’s me.

What I’ve found very interesting, yet extremely troubling is a growing inability for people to accept that they have faults; even more so, that they are either unwilling to or incapable of appropriately dealing with those faults.

My fault is not my fault it’s your fault for causing my fault because you have more faults than I have, ergo your faults caused my faults because I didn’t have any faults I’d admit to before I met you and your faults now you have forced to me think about my faults which are actually your faults projected onto me.

Now here’s the logical question: “I’m lonely, why can’t I find happiness with anyone? Someone who will love me for me.”

Whoa, did I actually say logical question? My bad, how about a self-motivated logical question? Ya, that fits better.

For me, building a solid and lasting relationship takes cooperation, dedication and a willingness to change. A willingness to sacrifice old habits and misconceptions to open one’s mind to new potentials and understanding of the self and the importance of that self in a union with another.

Changes in a relationship do not work. Changes in people, do. Look beyond the obvious to see that which is within. Remove the mask, to that others might know you.

Unite with the self in peace and harmony before you attempt to unite with another.

The Art, or lack thereof, of Dom/Sub communications

A Question of Submission/Domination and Communications

The other night, I got into a fascinating conversation with a young gay lad about what it means to be submissive in a relationship.

His question was: “How do I know I’m submissive; is there a scale to follow?”

My initial thought was, is this guy kidding, but then, on thinking, I realized he was honestly confused about his feelings towards someone who he described as being “dominant.” Of course, the first thing to come to mind for him was what he had learned about the Marquis de Sade’s works on the topics of Sado-Masochism which, for me it the most radical form of dominant/submissive relationship. However, it did get me to thinking about the topic sub/dom relationships.

Personally, I think there are distinct levels of both dominance and submission. Example: A dominant person meets a submissive person, they get together, enjoy their activities in private but do not seem to actually satisfy each other’s needs; critical word there, NEEDS.

Let’s be honest here, while there can be a significant amount of physical pleasure, and some pain in Dom/Sub relationship activities, there may not be any psychological gratification, ergo only physical needs were addressed. So how does this happen and how can it be avoided?

One word answer here: COMMUNICATIONS. No, not telephone, telegraph or tell a loudmouth, I mean real face to face, honest exchanges of feelings, wants and needs.

“I need to dominate you because it gives me feelings of superiority I’ve never be able to have before.”

“I love how you spank me, my dad never did, and I think I missed out on something.”

“I’ll tie you up and ravish your body because that’s what men are supposed to do.”

“I’ll let you tie me up and ravish my body to take away the guilt I feel for even doing this.”

And so the list goes on because no one candidly communicated these needs and the problem remains until eventually, the relationship dies because there was no communication.

If you feel you are either dominant or submissive, express that openly, but for God’s sake, don’t do the “I get into anything and everything mode” then nitpick at whatever your partner suggests. Be open, be fair and be communicative; set your parameters for all activities and stick to them. Communicate what you think fills your needs and what doesn’t, before you agree to anything, but don’t forget, it’s a mutual thing so listen to your partner’s needs too.

As silly as it sounds, make a list of your dos, don’ts and won’ts so that when negotiating, and that’s an integral part of all relationships, you can be direct:

“No, I won’t have sex standing up in a canoe, but I’ll rock your world on a pontoon boat.”

How about: “No, I won’t run around the house in a mini skirt and handcuffs but leave them in the bedroom for later.”

If you want that person in your life, communicate that fact. The worst that can be said in reply is “No thanks.”

The return of no one

Does the world really repeat itself as we age? 

As a youngster, I was pretty much ignored in my family. My dad died when I was 15; up until that time, I can only remember him actually talking to me. For quite a while, I actually thought he was mute. 

I also had two older brothers (?), ok, biological siblings is a better description as, compared to what I note in other families, they shared no brotherly affection or interest in me at all. Well, maybe that’s not exactly true, my one brother, David, loved to bully me whenever possible; a couple of times, he did some pretty severe physical damage.

My mother did most, if not all of the talking in the family. She was quite adept at encapsulating each member of the family so as there was no real family unit, just disconnected parts.  To the best of my knowledge, she did this to everyone she knew. Her favorite phrase was something like, “Someone said this about you, but I promised not to say who.” or “I’m not supposed to tell you this, but this is what happened to your nephew and no one wants you to know.” Then why even tell me? Easy, to reinforce her control of the isolation she placed me in as a child.

Now, with some things changing in my life, it’s very hard for me to accept being alone. I realize that should I live longer, my mind and body will deteriorate, perhaps to the point where I’ll be in a vegetative state; alone again, in my world of thoughts unspoken. 

Someone, I once cared about and for, is leaving my life this month. It’s time this person left and time hard lessons are learned, but they’re not mine. Strange as it may sound, there is an old emptiness returning to me with this parting.

Who, will be there for me when my time comes? 

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